If I told you to run headfirst into a brick wall, would you? Probably not. Yet, metaphorically, most of us do it day after day, week after week, year after year. We repeat the same behaviors, bemoaning the results and expecting different outcomes. Trapped in miserable relationships and jobs that do not support our needs, we lack the courage to take a leap of faith. Change is terrifying. We came to terms with our pain and fear that jumping from the frying pan would plunge us into the flame. Taking a chance could be worse than enduring our misery. Pessimistic, we remain stuck, never considering that something better is waiting for us. Phoenix rose from the ashes with renewed youth and energy. With determination, we can transform. Possibilities are limitless.
If you think that I sound like Pollyanna, I understand. It is difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel, when you cannot see where to take your next step. Change does not happen overnight, but the process can begin immediately. First, listen to your heart. Where would you like to be in five years? What career would you like to pursue? There are online courses, community colleges and training programs that tailor classes around your work schedule. If you are in an abusive relationship, seek help and counseling.
Life is packed with disappointments, lessons, loss and sorrow, but also joy, excitement, pleasure and love. You deserve to be happy. You were not put on this planet to be a victim. Take charge and create the life you were meant to live. Only you know what that is. Enjoy the journey. Bon Voyage!
I tell people to face fears, push outside the comfort zone, ignore negative messages from ego and be self-confident, but when the arrow is pointed at me, I buckle with self-doubt. Walking into a room filled with strangers, speaking in front of a crowd, going to an interview, entering a competition and dating throw me into panic mode. I forget that I am a spiritual being here to learn. Some experiences are painful. Ego screams that I fall short, regardless of the scenario. It is easier to run away from possible joy than to feel disappointment, rejection and hurt.
How do I move forward? The answer is self-love. I am a work in progress and can only share what I have learned from great teachers. When challenged by a situation that has me on the ropes, I take time-out to get grounded by immersing myself into what makes my heart sing. For me, nature, music, walks with my dog and dance bring me back to center. I remember who I am, a beautiful soul within flesh and bones. Others may find their sacred space with meditation, gardening, cooking, building, sewing, etc. Taking time for yourself is not selfish. You cannot serve if you are depressed and depleted.
Life would be boring without challenges. Walk boldly with love and leave fear home, in the closet with ego.