If I told you to run headfirst into a brick wall, would you?  Probably not.  Yet, metaphorically, most of us do it day after day, week after week, year after year.  We repeat the same behaviors, bemoaning the results and expecting different outcomes.  Trapped in miserable relationships and jobs that do not support our needs, we lack the courage to take a leap of faith.  Change is terrifying. We came to terms with our pain and fear that jumping from the frying pan would plunge us into the flame. Taking a chance could be worse than enduring our misery. Pessimistic, we remain stuck, never considering that something better is waiting for us.  Phoenix rose from the ashes with renewed youth and energy.  With determination, we can transform.  Possibilities are limitless.  

If you think that I sound like Pollyanna, I understand. It is difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel, when you cannot see where to take your next step. Change does not happen overnight, but the process can begin immediately. First, listen to your heart.  Where would you like to be in five years?  What career would you like to pursue?  There are online courses, community colleges and training programs that tailor classes around your work schedule.  If you are in an abusive relationship, seek help and counseling.  

Life is packed with disappointments, lessons, loss and sorrow, but also joy, excitement, pleasure and love.  You deserve to be happy.  You were not put on this planet to be a victim.  Take charge and create the life you were meant to live. Only you know what that is.  Enjoy the journey.  Bon Voyage!