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Grief- The Knife to the Heart

Death is inevitable, the looming reality, that the journey on Earth is temporary. Although we observe the life cycles of all living things, we are devastated by loss and fear our own mortality.

Grief is an emotion that cannot be avoided. The pain is excruciating when loved ones, including pets, transition to the other side. A piece of us dies with them. Functioning like robots, we tend to daily tasks, but our hearts are non-participants.

Psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross developed a theory that we go through five distinct stages of grief after the loss of a loved one: Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally acceptance. I experienced all of these, but some during the five years that my husband fought leukemia. Denial came when he was diagnosed and relapsed from a bone marrow transplant. Bargaining was in the form of prayer during his treatment. Because he was suffering without hope of recovery, I felt acceptance and relief at his transition. Two years later, when time had dulled the illness and treatment nightmares, I was angry because he had left me to navigate life’s challenges alone. The last item is depression. Over the last seven years, I monitored my mood. Was I clinically depressed? No, but I felt a dark cloud overshadowing everything. Nothing felt the same. It was as if a nerve had been snipped from my body. I felt and enjoyed with all my senses, but the intensity was missing.

There is no time limit on grief, but we can take charge to avoid being devoured. Our loved ones are in a place of unconditional love and light. We remain here because there is more learning, growing and loving to do. Regardless of your beliefs concerning perpetual life, while here, you must survive. Reality bites when the loved one’s death puts you into financial hardship. You may have a family to feed, mortgage and other debts. Nobody is going to rush in on a white charger to save you. After the initial shock, there is no time for pity parties or for sitting in the corner to suck your thumb. Moving forward is the only way to survive. The progress may be slow. You may feel like you are slogging knee deep in molasses, with tears gushing from your eyes. The path may seem dark as pitch.  Keep going, if only by baby steps.

With time, the journey becomes easier. Set realistic expectations. Become friends with grief. Know that dates, songs, pictures and places may trigger waves of sorrow. Feel and deal with the emotion when it arises. Have a good cry. When the intensity recedes, continue your healing journey.

Love and pamper yourself. Work on mind, body and spirit health. Stay open for signs from your loved ones. I experienced electronic irregularities, coins, feathers, scents, songs on the radio, random memories, a chill, tummy blips, butterflies, dragonflies, birds and ringing bells. Repeating numbers may be messages from the angels. Multiple fours appear to me several times a day. They are on the clock, computer, license plates, receipts and car odometer. Other repeating numbers include my birthday and 1111. Your loved ones reach across the veil to give you comfort and support. Be open to their love. Their vibration is higher than ours. Raise yours to meet them. Deep in sorrow, you will miss the messages.

Grief hurts and is merciless. Struggle through the void. Find joy and be grateful. Beauty surrounds. Open your heart to receive the love.

Shut Off the Media

Look at us, floating in space, no strings attached.

What keeps us from falling into the abyss?

The mystical power of what we cannot see and do not understand.

Shut down the media and go within!

Think for yourself.

We are all equipped with a soul to guide us.

Shut off the noise from those who want to influence and control you.

Each of us has a guidance system for truth and love.

Use it!

The animal and plant kingdoms know what to do.

Humans flounder!

Kick greed to the curb. There is abundance for all.

No one is above another.

Show compassion for fellow man, animals and the environment.

Planet resources are for all.

We are one!

Unite!

Come Together

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Be Still

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“Be still!” No entertainment.

Punishment

“Sit there and think about it!”

Tedium

 

Worldwide virus halts the train

Stuck inside

Forced to face our inner fears

Panic spreads

 

Look around at status quo

Comforting

New days dawn, the birds still sing

Flowers bloom

 

Time to chill, step off the wheel

Wait the storm

Meditate, appreciate

Inner peace

From the Heart

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Give thanks for

Who you are,

What you have

From the Heart

 

Give help to

Hungry, poor

Tired, ill

From the heart

 

Share time with

Loved ones, friends

Volunteer

From the heart

 

Spread kindness

Smiles, respect

Empathy

From the Heart

 

Connected we

Woven threads

Joy and peace

From my heart

Through the Veil

Messages from those beyond

Shunned in disbelief

Man rejects unseen attempts

Comprehend cannot

 

Spirits made of energy

Not of solid mass

Subtle twinges unexplained

Love from nearby realm

 

Feathers, pennies, dragonflies

Birds, the love they bring

Open heart and mind receive

Songs through veil they sing

 

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Guided

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Crossing Bridges

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Gentle spirits hover close

Giving guidance

Feathers, pennies, butterflies

Signs from loved ones

 

Comprehending, understand

Catch the meaning?

Foggy, fuzzy, message be

Earthly limits

 

Gifted wonder, medium

Communicates

Souls who crossed behind the veil

Sharing wisdom

 

Love eternal, never dies

Crossing bridges

Living life with clarity

Thank you, helpers

He Is There

Dad provides the worldly needs

Sits silently aside

Stalwart in his outward pose

Fights demons of his own

 

Leader of the family

Advisor, loving man

Mentor, coach, defender waits

To mend a broken heart

 

Wiping tears, encouraging

His child’s growth support

Proud of the accomplishments

Arms out to catch the falls

 

Father in the sense that’s true

Means more than DNA

Dance recitals, soccer games

Wherever, he is there!

Family Reunion

Time shared, love exchanged

Bonding moments, reminiscing

Sibling rivalry, long forgotten

Roots run deep, forever loved

 

 

 

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